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HOW
IT'S DONE
The
lips are a sacred place of love. Placing the lips on those of the
beloved has been celebrated by lovers of all epochs. The kiss recalls
nourishment. Once mothers chewed the food and then passed it to
the little ones by way of mouth. The kiss comes from this primitive
form of homogenization.
There are however peoples who instead of oral contact prefer the
rubbing of noses (Eskimos). Elsewhere the kiss on the mouth is also
practised as a sign of friendship and used in public encounters
(Breznev's historic kisses to Eastern Europe's heads of state).
To speak of the technique of kissing is superfluous. The kiss is
an emotion and everyone kisses in a different way. I will just list
here what is best to avoid.
First, I find kisses that are too deep distasteful. Especially the
first times if you stuff half a metre of tongue in your lover's
mouth. It could be enjoyable in certain particularly 'hot' situations,
but to do it all the time could be excessive.
The denied kiss is equally annoying: given with stiff lips and pulling
the tongue back. That is - if you don't feel like kissing, don't
kiss. It's better. The kiss makes sense if it is soft, gentle and
slow.
I love it when the lips and the tongue rub together gently without
leaving empty spaces. A kiss with a twirled tongue, like a blender,
or with a wide-open mouth can express special moments of explosion
or longing... but generally I prefer the kiss of abandon with the
lips and the tongue soft and wet. Even here, as elsewhere in life,
it won't do to exaggerate. Above all, the tongue shouldn't be too
relaxed. To kiss a lifeless tongue makes no sense.
To conclude, I will list the main actions that make up a kiss.
- stroking, rubbing with the lips;
- giving little bites with the lips;
- breathing in and puffing with half-closed lips;
- smacking of the lips;
- licking and slapping of the tongue on the lips and on the surrounding
areas. Or on the teeth, or for those who go too far, on the palate.
The licking can be done with a pointed tongue or with a flat tongue;
- twisting of the tongue;
- sucking of the lips and tongue;
- all the above can be done in various ways: in one or the other's
mouth, or halfway between with the mouth half-closed, half-open,
open or wide-open. With a sound of puffing, groaning, gasping, moaning,
shouting, or in silence. The more virtuous try to talk by kissing
each other, others mumble the phrases between one deep kiss and
another, thus producing the famous syncopated slang commonly heard
in films.
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